Thank you all SO MUCH for the comments. It's easy to forget that I'm not the only person who's been through this and your comments help make me feel better about all this!

I'm sick of worrying about my hair. I think balding is worse than being bald! For everyone who said that I should go for it now, you're absolutely right! I'm scared but also ready to do this. The low density idea is something that I've thought about, and makes sense.

I still have so many questions, so hope everyone doesn't mind me asking a few just now.

I've heard people mention that systems last anywhere from 3-6 months. I presume this depends on how you care for them and what lace you have?

Is there a list here of stylists to cut it in on here?

I have good sides so I would be after a topper. What I've wondered is, obviously the top wouldn't grow but the sides would, is it a case of getting a "trim" every 2-4 weeks on the sides?

Most of my hair loss is in the crown area. I know these systems come with crowns, is it possible to have the crown area looking thin?

Again, thanks so much guys. I'm repeating myself, but I'm nervous and excited, but your words are helping me along the way.