you'll be fine dude.
i know how it feels like, i was totally stressed out at first, but when i went in for the cut in, i knew it was gonna be a big deal when i see the hairdresser shave off my thinning hair. she even took away the mirror in advance but the minute she went out of the room i took a peak and i wasnt terrified. really, it was no big deal, maybe cause i had prepared myself for a bigger shock. the minute she attached the piece on me head, i had a lot of hair, so it was really really strange. of course i looked better but i was anxious to have it styled quickly in a proper manner. she cut it, but i kept asking her to go shorter and shorter... till i got it the way i liked it. i looked so great, and happy, i went outside of the salon feeling like a top model!
to be honest, that was the only time i went to a salon. i just do it myself nowadays and have a better result. but for the first time, i think it wouldnt be a bad idea to have someone else cut it for you, but pay attention and try to learn as much as possible.
at first i used to panic, thinkin people might realise that i wear and a lot of what ifs...
nowadays, i panic a lot less. i sometimes have people messing up my hair ... the more confidence you air the better, i promise you.
i have given the panic attacks so much thought that i nowadays think it like this:
- if someone's gonna ask me whether i wear (which is very unlikely) i say yeah (confidently); its not a big deal and trying to hide it will make it worse most probably. if i see a giggling response i'll just point out that he's not exactly god's best example of a natural being either. just for the record, i've never been asked whether i wear.
- if someone asks whether i've done anythin different with my hair (especially if they look suspicious) i'd go with 'no, but why? do i look better?' and if the questions keep bargin in, i say 'listen dude, if ya dont like it dont look at it, simples' and walk away. (i've been asked this when i made the plunge, but my response was 'yeah, a makeover, straightened and dyed my hair' ... cause ps. usually when you die your hair, the dye on the scalp will give you a fuller looking head of hair)
- if someone asks whether you've done anything differently (in general) just say 'yeah, a sex change' (i've been asked that today, and that was my answer, and it worked brilliantly... i said it confidently and we both had a laugh)
what i'm trying to say was... i used to be really scared of those questions when i started wearing but 10 months experience now, i look so much better, so undetectable, and so confident. And I don't even worry anymore, i mean, i still spend a lot of time trying to look good and do my best not to get busted... and sometimes i do get the bad-hair day but well, everyone does i suppose. if the odd person comes out and is very confident i am wearing, i might just tell him cause i dont really give a shit nowadays. we're living in an era where vanity is not just a lady's thang.
I was browsing through some old photos of mine with my girlfriend, and she told me 'god, you lookin hotter the more you age'. She's a fashion designer and she knows that I wear. Has absolutely no prob about it, prefers me this way. It's not like I'm recreating a different person, I'm just restoring what I've lost. It should be more shameful to have a breast implant, cause they had never had them (breast size) before.
So fuck it dude, fuck the taboo... and do your best to look and feel better.
If you are like me... you have 2 options:
1. Look at the mirror and hate what you see (bald head) and probably having co workers constantly joke about your shiny looking scalp to which you laugh on the outside, but hurts you constantly on the inside; or
2. Look at the mirror and feel happy with what you see (the new you), and having people not commenting about your bald spot anymore, but with the risk of having maybe the odd person asking you a question which might embarrass you (to which you can reply anyway you like).
Good luck dude, I've chosen number 2, and i can now say (after 10 months) that I'm convinced i've chosen the right road. It wasnt an easy road for me, and have thought of giving it up on numerous times, but i held on ... and its now lookin easier and easier.
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cold feet.... i need some motivation to get the cut in :(
