MathewMathews,

IMHO, the environment in which we live is substantially influential in forming our early perceptions and experiences about hair wearing, both positive and negative. I believe it is these early perceptions that form, which largely determines whether or not we will extend our initial period of ‘trying the wig’, or not. To realize success in hair wearing, a longer period of assessment is absolutely essential, and if our early perceptions and experiences were base on negative and harsh circumstances, then we are most likely to fail, and thus quit. We circum to the idea that it’s ‘not meant to be’, and that the experience of hair wearing does not live up to our expectation. Unfortunately and fortunately, there is no reality, other than the one we unconsciously create.

When I first started wearing hair, I was very lucky because the transition was mostly invisible, and people didn’t know I had thin hair at all. During my first few weeks of wearing, I received much positive feedback, and ppl couldn’t understand why I wore baseball caps for so long, when I had such great ‘hair’. My perceptions and experiences of wearing hair which were forming in those weeks, were key to my success in unconsciously allowing myself to extend my hair wearing experience, to further asses the positive/negative impacts wearing would have.

Unfortunately, due to certain comments you received early in your hair wearing experience, you formed perceptions that were counterproductive in building up confidence and created a distorted reality of wearing hair, and thus the ‘its not for me’ resignation has replaced a once vibrant hope.

It is a natural, biological response to ‘feel good’ when our physical appearance reflects the perception of how we see our self, and when that perception doesn’t match our appearance, we feel affected. Some more devastated than others.

I honestly believe your whole hair wearing experience could have been entirely different, given a different environment/thought process. I truly feel your pain, and I leave you with a thought of hope. There is hope. You tried hair wearing in ONE situation at ONE stage of your life. There will be other times when you may want to try in different situations.

There’s always hope.

Sam