How on earth is Hairenough meant to know what his partner is looking at whilst he's asleep?
Hairenough has already stated he's had a partner for several years and they are unaware of his situation.

You think that one post from someone saying the opposite has caused him to have an epiphany and he's realised he's living a lie??????!!!
Val, there are no 'rules'. Its just individuals with individual experiences.

Not only are you looking too deeply at your imagined parallels between you & Hairenough, you're now going to have to seek parallels between your partners!?!

Not all partners will act the same. Not everyone's relationship is the same.
Wearing hair doesn't come with a membership to the Stepford Wives Club.