Sester Wrote:Tom mate,

I think your approach is best for your personality and mine is best for mine. What i was disagreeing with is when you say that if we dont make our wigs known to everyone, we are being fake and ashamed. To be honest I think your basing your strategy on a premise of fear from the outset. I think if people have seen you before your hair replacement and the change is drastic and obvious, then your approach is best, to the people who know u already. To all other people who u meet first the first time, telling them at every chance you got, is a strategy mainly based on fear. Thats my opinion.

As you said, the only important thing is u are happy.

Sam

For me only I feel fake if I am forced to lie or BS another. Thats just me. I am proud of the hair so I don;t hide it. I am not afraid of it! the psychology for me is very much different. I have no issue posting my bald head (with no masking) on here and have. Its just not something I feel needs a "figleaf." Now don't get me wrong, I don't wear a sign (unless the hair is looking pretty bad, LOL) But I don't hide it either IF the subject should come up. I confront it and discuss it. Its not uncomfortable for me. No fear involved at all.

I am PROUD of the way I look with it and the way the hair looks and I actually enjoy the shock of another when I do tell them in casual conversation. Its an interesting situation for THEM!! They don't know how to react. LOL. They start looking for telltale signs. I just don't take it all that seriously.. thats all. I go some days without it to the beach or wear a rag to keep the sun burn and pesky skin cancer away.

For me I enjoy a certain FREEDOM when people around me know. I don't have to worry about it.It's liberating. Its just like having my own hair in that regard. People cannot bust what they already know or whisper behind ones back thinking they know something you don't. Which is "they know......but believe you don't know they know and are afraid to let you know they know but want to..........ya see how complex things can get? LOL

I meet new people all the time. In fact I moved from Vegas to Myrtle Beach three years ago and a whole new set of workmates and friends know I wear now. They do think it's dumb for the most part. Maybe they are right, but right now I am comfortable with it. Someday maybe I will be done with it. I would not say my premise is based on fear in as much as its based on wanting freedom from fear. I want to conduct my life without anxiety, The best way to do this wearing hair for me is not to worry about being outed or coming up with BS lines to distract people or change the subject. I want to live as if I am NOT wearing and I found honesty and being openly comfortable with it is the way to do that in my case only. I don't think it will work for others as long as they view baldness as a shameful condition rather then a cosmetic flaw.