Mathew...

I know how you feel. The reason I felt like a fraud was not becasue I was wearing hair but because I was trying so hard to hide it. I took the opposite tact as most. I revealed I wore if someone asked. Just the other day a bald guy and I were talking and he said "wow you are lucky to have all your hair at you age"...LOL I replied, "no I am lucky to be able to afford hair," He thought transplant. I said no I would not think of changing my body permanently under any knife. At my age a lot of guys especially talk about hair becasue many are just beginning to lose theirs. Not the guy who balded out in their 20's. So they are "walkin with a limp" so they notice how "others walk"....... ie look at other guy's hair...... The point I am making is I don't feel like a fraud becasue I am NOT a fraud. I'm not hiding anything anymore than a woman who wears lipstick is hiding her bland flesh colored lips. We KNOW her lips are not that red and shiny.

Its a little trickier with guys. But easier in some ways for young guys TODAY. I sometimes think young guys are actually plucking their eyebrows and wearing make up nowadays. Everyday make up. Now if THAT is acceptable for a guy........................ a wig is not all that far behind...ya think?

So yeah everyone around me knows I wear. And IT'S NO BIG DEAL. People don't make jokes about UNTIL I DO. Plus I don't worry about detection. I don't fuss about my hair. I ride a motorcycle and it gets messed up....OH well. I don't BRING ANY ATTENTION to my hair. But I do make sure it does NOT draw attention and keep it NATURAL looking and normal in that its not perfectly styled and looks like I need a hair cut all the time. NO ONE has ever asked me IF I wear... That's important because I AM IN CONTROL of how and when I reveal.If someone ever were to ask I would flat out ell them "Yeah....whats wrong? You hear an Oriental screaming for her hair back? LOL"

....You are a performer..Even MORE reason you have an "excuses" Performer do all kinds of things to market themselves. Some even wear a ton of make-up in that quest.

The point is if you just came out and said "yeah I'm wearing a wig..................... and????" I think people will see how confident you are and it WILL disarm them. Will a few laugh? Sure they will, but you can remind them that their faces cannot be changed as easily as your hair....LOL. When someone really wants to know why I wear (as opposed to if) I always tell them the same thing...

"Go to a museum and look at ANY really nice work of art..........See how nice the frame is? See how the frame makes that work of art even more valuable and beautiful?
Now look at this face...does it not deserve a beautiful frame?"

Works like a charm......shows confidence and humor. Not arrogance or conceit. Both of which are extreme turn ons for women. Far more than hair or a pretty face....Most women do not like "primping men". They won;t mind you are wearing Number one- IF YOU DON'T and Number two - if you are not obsessed with it.

Don;t let your wig own you....You own it. If you feel fake with it its only becasue you ARE fake hiding it. OWN it. Be PROUD of it. Display it proudly and you will fond no one really cares at all........but if THEY discover it on their own............. they will be whispering behind your back and everyone will be checking out your head and taking bets....feel better? LOL