Hello Hair Scare, Do not worry everything will fall into place. Even a custom can sometimes be off a bit. If the thought of doing your own pleats scars you then just bring it into a good wig place and they will do it for you. Now about the intimacy part, when you get a tight well fitting piece with a good bond it is very hard for someone that does not wear a piece to tell you are wearing. We sometimes become our own worst enemy because we feel that everyone is looking for the tell tale signs that we tend to worry about. Thruth is that if they do not suspect you are wearing in the first place its very hard to tell.I let them run their fingers thru my hair and I only avoid the front hairline. That can be easier to detect. If you fell they are getting to felly feely with you hair just change position and just make it harder for them to touch .