Hi Guys,

I'm looking for a bit of advice here. My first system has arrived and after nearly 8 weeks of waiting and thinking about it, my first reaction when i took it out of the packaging was that i've made a mistake with the density and gone too low. Its 60% throughout and whilst this actually looks like it will probably work in the front third/half I think my existing hair is better towards the back. I ordered no crown but there is definitely one there and this looks extremely sparse. I may be completely wrong and just paranoid but my overriding feeling is that i won't be able to use this system as it is.

My options currently are:

1) use this system and just take the risk. the obvious downside is that if it is too thin as i suspect then i'm going to in fact look worse than i do now, not better. also when i'm new to wearing and learning about bonding etc. i am scared that a piece that is too thin and shows more scalp/lace will be so much harder to disguise and work with for a beginner than a thicker system. would anyone agree or disagree with this?

2) I can send it back and have more hair added. I have spoken to John about this already and he has said that this would mean another 5-6 weeks minimum. plus i'm in the UK and when I sent my original template in it took nearly 10 days to reach him so lets call it 6-7 weeks. I had a window of opportunity during May to start wearing for a month without any major events to attend so that i could make an easier transition and get used to the bonding, attaching routine etc. and find what works best for me. I have my brothers stag weekend at the end of July. 4 days in Prague with a bunch of guys, sharing rooms etc. the last thing i wanted was to be brand new to wearing and learning the basics in that environment for obvious reasons.

I am literally lost with this at the moment. I don't know what to do for the best. i'm scared to take the plunge and get this cut in, hate it and then be months away from getting a replacement. on the flip side i am scared of waiting longer into the summer to start learning how to bond etc. as i've read on numerous threads what a nightmare this can be even for experienced guys with the hotter weather etc.

i'm normally the sort of guy that goes with my gut instinct on things and my gut is telling me to wait and send it back. from reading this forum and others it seems that going too high with the density can be rectified by removing hairs, but if you get density wrong on the other end of the scale and its too thin, there is little you can do.

I don't want to use concealers in my system because this is exactly what I'm trying to get away from and also i assume they could end up discolouring the lace and make it extremely difficult to disguise the system. Possibly i could look at cutting it into a partial and just using that front half that i think may be ok but i'm worried about this also in terms of blending and getting it to look natural etc.

I know guys say on here that if you show some scalp it looks more realistic etc. and that's fine except i don't show a great deal of scalp currently and so to start doing that now would probably not improve the appearance. I'm concerned that if i'm starting out too thin to begin with and the system begins to shed prematurely due to my untrained handling of it then I'm going to be locking myself in a room until mid June when I can get a replacement.

This may all sound dramatic guys and i apologise if this is like reading the ramblings of a irrational vain idiot, but it's taken a lot for me to make the decision to wear and to say goodbye to those concealers and crap hair styles used to disguise the hair loss. Feeling crap every time i look in the mirror. I really feel like the first system is the most important in terms of making this transition and beginning my hair wearing journey and i am so scared to make the wrong move.

So...to use this system or send it back. that is my choice and I have to act quickly and know what I'm doing by the start of this next week. I know its hard to tell from photos etc. but if anyone has had this experience and felt that a system looked far too thin when they received it I would really welcome your input as to what you did and how it worked out.

Thanks

Yorkie

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Apologies for the number and quality of photos but hopefully it gives you an idea of what I'm on about

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For some reason the post is putting these photos in a random order instead of the sequence I intended. if anyone is confused just ask. cheers.