(01-19-2012, 11:27 PM)Hersute Wrote: Furball's post above reflects my experience & sentiments about wearing pretty much exactly.

(01-20-2012, 12:04 AM)Paul In Ireland Wrote: Yeah ..well-put post, and gives a good overall perspective on this whole `game`..... gives the `real` picture.

Well then, I'm gratified to be in such good company ...

I meant to be clearer about the trade-off idea for Trey's benefit (and other's who are thinking of making the leap) ... and to highlight the upside of wearing to balance out my previous post.

So we put in the effort to improve our hair loss situation (as detailed in the previous post), and when it's looking good (which is most of the time), I get compliments on my hair often ... from those who know I've "done something" AND from those who don't. Sometimes its just a comment about looking good, without specific reference to my hair. In fact, when I've got it nailed, my hair looks better than my own hair ever did !! Fact. (... the trade-off being the time and effort required to get that result, and that some days, no matter the effort ... it ain't happening).

The attitude part ... so my hair is improved, but someone finds out it's not growing out my head. How do I feel?

If my attitude is:

"No one must know my terrible secret."

... then my self esteem takes a hit, and I've gained little w/ the wearing game. This mindset carries a lot of psychological pressure.

Or my attitude can be:

"I had a problem that bothered me. I found a solution I can live with."

Those that wear successfully arrive at something like this latter attitude.
It took me most of my 48 years to even learn that I could CHOOSE my attitude. And I've found that most people will accept, and adopt, whichever one I choose ...

... including other attitudes like ... who cares if I have hair or not? ... it's only hair, after all

~FB