You've just got to start learning how to do your hair again, after all these years!
You start your learning curve right here my friend!
There are lots of tutorial on styling hair on Youtube.
Here's one that might help, but some of the styling products might not be suitable.
Do a search & see what you can find:
http://youtu.be/Y3KDEbpSHdI

I'm surprised she got a spiky look using JUST water. You may have to resort to a light product to achieve the same results.
I imagine she used her fingers more than a comb or brush?
I find sleeping on slightly damp hair gives me an extremely spiky hair by the morning!

Well done though.
Congratulations and the best of luck.