As a gay man, I will say the scene is so much about appearance! It's a catch-22 for gay guys... you need to have hair, but if your hair is not real you seem weak. Lots of guys are about appearance at first, but many just "play the gayme." I am only 28, but have been balding since I was 16! Most of the dudes I have dated, were awesome guys who didn't care... however, there have been guys who I know would, so I passed them over... if they cared that much, I figured I did not want to be with them anyway!