Hiver, there is no need to swear. I wear a 1b and know what you mean about the black dots, if you've seen a piece without any kind of knot bleaching...you would be shocked.

It all depends on how you style your hair.

You can use a bleaching kit to lighten the knots more, but it will weaken the hair. If you do it, its very important to have back up pieces.

You could order a blond front, and then colour the hair and your own hair to match.

Yes it requires work, but anything worthwhile in life does.

It sounds like you are new to wearing? The priority here is to, get used to wearing. Attaching, figuring out what glues/tapes work for you. How long you can comfortably go between attachments. Go for a comb down style, order a backup and knot bleaching kit and experiment.