Hey Person.

You're welcome, and thank you for the feedback. I currently use French Lace with SFS front. But I'm ordering full SFS on my next order.

SFS is less detectable to the touch (slightly). Supposedly, French Lace is a slightly stronger base but, if I'm ordering a combination of French Lace and SFS, and the SFS bit gets damaged, it doesn't matter that the French Lace is still good, cause I will ditch it anyway, so I might as well get FULL SFS. (I don't know if you can understand my logic - my primary language is not English).

As for attachment method, I use Supertape along the perimeter and 2 strips from front to back. I use UltaHold Glue for the front bit - it is very strong. I will be experimenting on Ghost Bond Glue however.

Hairspray, I use a normal hairspray - one that you can buy from a hair salon, my brand of choice is Tresemme. And when you do buy products for normal hair, try to share them with people around you. Tell them you have found this amazing Hairspray that they should use, and lend it to them (force them lol). For the simple reason that non-wearers think that a HP require HP special products, so by giving them an insight to the products that you are using (which are for normal hair) you will be subtly implying your hair is real hair. Just a tip I use to play on people's mind.

I consider hair wearing as a game. These small things that we do are the technical abilities, or skills that will make you stand out from the rest. Don't shadow yourself or escape normal hair topics, to the contrary, involve yourself.

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(12-05-2010, 11:17 AM)Baldrich Wrote: Mr JoeJohn

I envy the fact that you have a really supportive girlfriend who knows about your hairpiece and is happy to help you maintain the illusion. That must help a lot. Can I ask, did you tell her you were going to start wearing a piece before you got one? How did you break the news to her, and what was her reaction?

Do you worry that she might tell her friends or family about your secret?

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Mr JoeJohn

I envy the fact that you have a really supportive girlfriend who knows about your hairpiece and is happy to help you maintain the illusion. That must help a lot. Can I ask, did you tell her you were going to start wearing a piece before you got one? How did you break the news to her, and what was her reaction?

Do you worry that she might tell her friends or family about your secret?

Hey Baldrich,

I started wearing during our relationship. So when I had decided I wanted to get in this game, I told her I'm gonna go for this, showed her some pics online of people wearing and she thought they looked undetectable and amazing.

She is very supportive, yes. She has ABSOLUTELY no concerns that I wear as long as I am looking good/ better. She sometimes wear party wigs, and makes me wear party wigs to... so mentally I'm thinking good, I'm wearing a wig on a wig lol. When I didn't wear, I used to have sex and sleep with caps on, so my hair was totally off bounds. When someone would take my cap as a joke, I would freak out. If my cap fell during sex, I would get limp. That's how bad it was.

She thinks I look a lot better now! I look myself and Very Normal. The way I should have been in the first place. And I bet my ass that the majority of the sane people would have no issue whatsoever whether you wear or not. Having said that, you don't want to look like a fool. I don't think you would have issues with your girlfriend going for breast augmentation, wouldn't you? And if she keeps them within normal size (i.e. does not make herself look like a fool) it would not affect anything really, you'll probably be happier for having a girlfriend that looks hotter, and your girlfriend would feel happier for feeling sexier herself, making you happy in turn. It's reverse psychology (?).

Just yesterday, she told me my hair is looking awesome. My hair looks better than most people's normal hair, and it needs no styling fixes, no blending fixes etc. Maybe the only thing that I need is to concentrate on perfect attachments all the time, sometimes, I leave a small wrinkle in the base (detectable to touch, not sight). But nothing to write about. I will get more consistent in attachments with practice.

I remember my first few attachments were more shaky, sometimes 5 cms forehead, sometimes 3 cms, 7 cms lol. So I can definitely see I'm getting more consistent now. It just requires some practice.

I sometimes worry that she might reveal my secret, but like younggun said, she knows it's a downer for me, and she promised me she would never hurt me like that. If she did, then she's not a decent person in the first place and I don't wanna be with her. I do trust her. Family is family, like younggun said, and they respect that for life.

What I need to work on also, is to stop continuously talking about my hair to her. She sees wearing as completely normal, but I fear that the more I talk, the more I open up and tell her about my paranoias, fears and dilemmas - the more I will drive her into thinking wearing is 'not' normal and I don't want to put her in my shoes. Hence, I have also told her I will start to not talk much about it from now on, and live a normal life without putting my hair as number 1 priority. She assured me she really doesn't mind talking about my hair if I wanted to. But truth is, I don't wanna jeopardize her current awesome state of mind about my hair wearing lol. The much-talking is normal really, understandable - being my first year and all.

But it's now time to move on...