Bangless Wrote:I get not wanting the world to know that you wear (or about to wear). But I think it's even more important not to become so obsessively guarded with this "secret" that you start walling off very important parts of who you are. At that point, the sense of shame surrounding your hair loss is exacting too great a toll. Losing one's hair is not a shameful thing -- unfortunate (for many), no doubt -- it's not a character flaw. As so many have mentioned here, wearing should be fun and liberating, not a hairy bandaid for a damaged psyche. You can wall yourself off only so much before the self-punishment borne of secrecy is worse than a Norwood 5000.

I remember when Willard Scott, the now ancient weatherman for the Today Show, used to take off/put on his hairpiece in the middle of a segment with a huge grin. The whole world knew and he couldn't care and the whole world thought nothing less of him, his fans probably loved him more for it. After all, there are few things more attractive than someone who's comfortable in their own skin even if part of it is covered with someone else's hair.

I couldn't agree with you more.

I will be honest with you.....I'm still not at the point where I'm going to pull it off in a crowd of people (mainly because it would perpetuate the myth that the piece is going to come off with a puff of wind), but I can assure you that the fact that most of my family and friends knowing is a huge weight off my shoulders.

I understand that it's a personal choice who you choose to share this with and who you don't, but with the results we can achieve with today's hair systems it is only shameful if YOU make it out to be. This is a REAL and VIABLE solution to hairloss that was not available to the general public for this price just a few years ago. There is no shame in wearing a natural looking piece.

Matter of fact I am sitting in a hair salon this very moment waiting to get a cut-in.

This salon is right next door to my business, and all of the stylists that work here know I wear. My entire immediate family knows. My business partner knows. My employee knows. A bunch of other guys I work with know. My real estate agent knows. My handful of really good friends know. Most of the women I am friends with know. And I get compliments from these people (and others who don't know I wear) all the time.

I am getting ready to release a DVD and Youtube videos, so my face is going to be plastered out there for all the world to see. And you know what? At this point it feels good. I'm actually proud of it!

Point is, try to get yourself comfortable with the idea of wearing. Once you get that part handled you won't worry so much about what others think and you will approach this hair game from a different perspective.