Elvis, that is not the one I use, I use this one. Very good for spiking and faux hawks but not really good for wet looks.
http://www.amazon.com/American-Forming-M...843&sr=1-1
I just bought a serum called Organix coconut serum that makes the hair really soft, actually was gonna post it on your thread bout dry hair, and also gives a wet look, downside is also a greasy look but rinses out with water and hair remains soft, at least so far. You can check amazon for it.
A good site I use for products is YouTube, type in the search of the style your going for and will bring up some good products to try out, as long as I see they don't contain alcohol I give them a try.
As far as bond issues, I am not experiencing any lifting from product. I experience issues depending on frequency of full rinses and shampooing. Currently averaging 12-14 days before I get any lifting, and really only front, back and sides stay secure till debond. The more I shampoo and rinse the less the bond holds.