+- Toplace USA (https://forum.toplace.com)
+-- Forum: TopLace Forum (https://forum.toplace.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=3)
+--- Forum: General hair replacement discussion (https://forum.toplace.com/forumdisplay.php?fid=4)
+--- Thread: Wearing hair - not for everyone... (/showthread.php?tid=1147)
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - Meandean - 02-28-2009
Dont give up.You will get it.I messed up few hair units before I got it in the ballpark.
Mich Baldy DVD was the main reason I keep going.I hope he does a new one someday.
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - wheresbaldo - 03-05-2009
Good post...I felt like I was in the same boat as you when I wore. I think TopLace is a great company and delivers quality pieces for an unbelievable price. Unfortunately, I had a series of problems when not only getting my piece shipped out but also going to a stylist and getting it cut/fitted. Eventually I just threw the piece in the trash, as I felt like it wasn't for me after all the trouble I went through.
At 23, I've dealt with hair loss for 6 years trying my best to hide the fact it was happening. Hats, Toppik, Dermatch, and Rogaine. All methods worked but not in a way where I could be myself again...I still worried about people looking at me, rubbing my head, or just sweating at the gym. Rogaine foam had great results as my whole head was thickening up with hair within 2 months but I did notice a slightly bloated face. Finally I just broke down and knew I had to gain confidence in my appearance and know that there are millions of balding men out there that are successful and have beautiful companions.
Soon enough I started going to places without the hat or the concealer. I've always had my hair buzzed and now I sport a great (yet faint) horseshoe. I feel like a leader of the pack for friends my age and it helps me stand out of the crowd. I use my wit, kindness, and CONFIDENCE to attract women. Sure, the girls that I dealt with years prior think it's probably weird but at this age...I don't want those girls. I want one that knows vanity is the last thing to have on your mind...especially in a world of lust, abuse, and infidelity.
Please, no one take this as a bash on people who wear pieces. I applaud you as it is not easy but remember that the piece is nothing without confidence.
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - Bangless - 03-05-2009
wheresbaldo -- award for most clever user name! :lol:
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - Bangless - 03-05-2009
wheresbaldo Wrote:Sure, the girls that I dealt with years prior think it's probably weird but at this age...I don't want those girls. I want one that knows vanity is the last thing to have on your mind...especially in a world of lust, abuse, and infidelity.
Dueling vanities -- there are also many women who [will] appreciate not having to compete with their mates for who has the best hair!
Vanity is a lovely millstone to be able to surrender, if you can. It frees up a lot of grey matter to devote to other things.
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - TomBongi - 03-12-2009
Good for you......You are truly free. and fortunate to be young in a time when shaved heads are the norm rather then the 70's when bald was not beautiful. It doesn't take a month to "know" its not for you, anymore then it would take a guy who had hair yesterday and none today to decided bald is not for him. Enjoy your life. Women are attracted to confidence far more then a full head of hair...for some of us the hair allows us that confidence. I actuallyy look foward to the day when I can shed the hair as well ..Everyone around me knows I wear. But apparently I'm the last man standing between the hassle of wearing and being totally free. I envy you.
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - Sester - 03-12-2009
Sorry I dont really agree. I think alot of us here wear hair because we know we look much better. period. It does give us extra confidence, but i dont really think thats the fundamental reason most of us wear.
Sam
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - hairagain - 03-12-2009
The picture below is why wearing hair can be emotional for many of us. When I see someone looking like this I know what I have on my head looks head and shoulders better that this guys but I wonder, Am I in the same category as this guy? If people bust me for wearing hair, do they think of me in this way?
On days when you know your piece is not looking it's best, somethime you FEEL like you are this guy...
This is what people who do not wear hair yet are PETRIFIED of looking like...
Who ever is responsible for this mans Hair Piece should look into some other field of work. They have totaly failed as a hair replacement solution.. They should be shot. EVERYTHING is wrong with this poor man's hair. The color is wrong, the density is wrong, so it the cut, style, shape, texture, he would be better off drawing his hair on with a magic marker. Where ever this guy is going, they sould have NEVER let him walk around looking like this. This is what some hair clubs do, they stick a bath mat on your head, tell you haw much better you look, oopen the door and push you out into society.
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - pwhack - 03-13-2009
well I think this may be the same guy
<!-- m --><a class="postlink" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_R._Orszag">http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_R._Orszag</a><!-- m -->
Maybe he doesn't care or maybe even doesn't have the time to maintain it.
To be honest probably my wig is a bit the same way (not a toplace by the way) Its probably got too high a density but then Im 50 and I dont want a new wig every few mths. I feel that if I was to get the right density then as the piece shed then it would have to be replaced more often. Currently im at about 18 mths ..mono piece. As i dont socialise a lot or on the dating scene as I have already got a partner and a kid, at the moment anyway im not too stressed out about it.
paddy
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - hairagain - 03-13-2009
Pwhack,
You must be looking in this forum for questions you have. There are a lot of ways that you will not have to spend a lot of money or time to look better wearing a hairpiece. I know that a lot of people here take it to a much higher level and you certainly don't have to go that far. You can look better with some of this information.
The pictures of that guy is of one of our new elected officials and I would have assumed he would take some time and effort to look like he knows MILLIONS of people are going to see him and have to take notice of what is on his head. If he really does not care, then he should go natural. You have to care somewhat if you choose to wear a hairpiece. I think he would look better natural. I myself have some transplant scars and can maintain a hair-piece that is about as undetectable as most of them. I wish I had the option but I don't feel I do. Anyway, my hair looks great today, because fo the info on care from this forum and I am looking forward to my piece from Toplace, and I plan on doing the cut and tweaking MYSELF.
Re: Wearing hair - not for everyone... - NotGuilty - 03-13-2009
Whoever doesn't have scars all over their head from transplants: consider yourself lucky that you have the option to shave and shut up lol. Just kidding, sort of. It's just frustrating cuz you guys consider yourself so unlucky cuz you're losing your hair but trust me, it could be worse. At least you got a choice. Look on the bright side. Plus, being bald is socially acceptable, you see guys with shaved heads all the time. Granted, not everyone looks good with the q-ball look. I have a friend that does it and he looks terrible with no hair. Some guys look great. Whatever.
To the guy who shaved and was talking about vanity: Don't say that vanity is bad and then in the same breath say "but i'm not saying you guys who are vain are bad". There's nothing wrong with wearing or not wearing. Being vain isn't a bad thing unless it's overly excessive.
You're right: attitude, confidence, wit, social skills, etc mean more than anything when it comes to women. Totally correct. But that holds true whether you wear or not. If you look handsome, have all those personality traits/stats and wear hair that looks natural and have a REAL HONEST attitude of "i don't give a f**k, i wear hair so what lol" then only a really stupid, immature, shallow, and imo WEIRD woman will have a problem with it. It's the person not the hair, and it works both ways. Whether you wear hair and are bald underneath, bald and not wearing, or not bald, it's all about YOU and how much you like yourself that determines your success. Remember, know one can like you more than you like yourself, and you can like no one more than you like yourself. Work on your self-concept - with or without hair. It's the key to life in general. I own a store and a guy comes in who has one of the worst pieces I have ever seen, and he's a totally likeable, confident older guy who is HAPPY. Happiness is more attractive than anything.