Hi Theone.... as John said, it will loosen ...it`s 2 factors at play here.... it`s `new` to you, so you`ll be conscious of it, and the salon has used a thick-ish tape and stretched the lace a bit so it`s kind of `pulling`the scalp and you are `registering` it....it`ll be fine when you do your own bond. I use Walker no-shine tape and get a good hold/bond time with it..... it`s great that you have someone to help you at home now..you`ll find your own little ways of doing things and likes/dislikes as you go along. I avoid frequent shampooing... system hair is not like growing hair...it`s not oily or `dirty`as such....a simple spritzing with water in the morning, and some leave-in conditioner a few times a week, is all I do. You can shampoo your growing side/back hair as John said.... the conditioner I`m always ranting-on about it ``PPI Enhance`` ...you can Google it for suppliers...... a wearer was telling me last week he got it recently and is totally delighted with it.....no stickiness or build-up and a simple spritz with water, in between applications , freshens it/hair, up again....really kind to hair and has a sunscreen in it too. The salons always go for a really taut bond for some reason..... a little bit of stretch is good, but too tight and you`ll be conscious of it. Regards for now.