Quote:I never said it would be easy . And clearly it takes finesse and time. But hey, you know best whether it's worth the effort. Either the relationship ends soon or it develops. If it's the former, it doesn't sound like you're going to be psychologically devastated.

When she first told me she doesn’t think about us in a serious way I was psychologically devastated for about 3 weeks, told her not to call me since I’m heart broken and talking to her is too painful. Now she suddenly changed her mind… the ball is in my hands and I’m not sure what to do.

Quote:But if it has a future, it's going to involve some risk-taking, right?

The stakes might be too high here…

Quote:My impossible-to-argue-with philosophy is that it's necessary to be with people (friends and lovers) who allow you to feel good about yourself. Either she can offer that to you or she can't.

Well, just the fact that someone who looks as good as her show me so much affection is enough to make me feel good about myself. On the other hand her obsession with looks make me even less comfortable with my faults. It’s a draw…