I never said it would be easy . And clearly it takes finesse and time. But hey, you know best whether it's worth the effort. Either the relationship ends soon or it develops. If it's the former, it doesn't sound like you're going to be psychologically devastated. But if it has a future, it's going to involve some risk-taking, right?

My impossible-to-argue-with philosophy is that it's necessary to be with people (friends and lovers) who allow you to feel good about yourself. Either she can offer that to you or she can't. If she can't, then what's the point? But if you two are just enjoying some fun-in-the-sack luvin', there are worse ways to spend your time.