Well man I can relate to you a little bit. In h.s. My hair was a mess, I was thinning and it was kinky hair, My hair really ruined me. i wouldnt even go to places that I couldnt wear a hat. My hat was my confort zone. When I had a hat i felt great about myself, but without the hat, I felt like pure crap. I probably would still feel that way if it werent for hair systems. u have to do what makes you happy. and those who might have a problem with that, you do not need. There is many fish in the sea. Dont follow along with the wrong person because you recently came out of your shell. You have to drop your previous attitude and lifestyle. Fresh start. have to conquer your insecurities and the rest will fall into place i promise.