CB1 Wrote:I take it that the women in question were "flings" and not girlfriends? Have you had a steady girlfriend while wearing? No girl has *ever* known your secret?

I'm not the OP, but have some experience on the issue:

I've dated two women while wearing. (I started about a year ago.) My girlfriend at the time noticed immediately, of course. Since then I've "dated" (that's a euphemism for @#$@ed regularly, btw) two women (for a while both at the same time), and neither of them noticed. Or if they did, the one I'm still seeing hasn't said so, and the one I broke up with never said so.

To help avoid detection, I use SFS and a 100% glue attachment. I also glue down any lose edges and plaster my hair with gel and hair spray before going on a date. The woman who I ended up dumping eventually got rather demanding, and asking why I used so much gel. I told her that my hair is really, really frizzy without it, but she kept bringing the topic up, saying that she'd like to see me with frizzy hair anyway instead. She had to go. (Well, that was far from the only issue, but clearly indicative of a larger problem.)

With my previous girlfriend, I was using concealers, which have a nasty texture and require a lot of hairspray. She knew the situation and would complain about it a lot, saying she'd rather have me be balding, despite me repeatedly informing her that that was never ever going to happen. She had to go.

The current "fun buddy", who I've been seeing for more than six months, has never brought up the issue of all the gel in my hair, even though I put enough gel in my hair to make it sharp and ouchy, she still runs her fingers through my hair pretty forcefully in the heat of passion, which I was trying to discourage by making my hair ouchy. I keep expecting that she will feel an edge or something, but she apparently hasn't, as she still keeps running her fingers through my hair, and has never said anything. On the other hand, she's pretty easy-going, so maybe she wouldn't mention the issue, even if had sussed out the situation. E.g., I think most women would ask why I'm using so much gel, but she never has.

I guess the moral of the story is, find a laid back woman! I've dated more than my share of critical and high strung ones, and it's grown old!